Lazy S Lodge

My mother is 71, I'm almost 40. For all my life, my mother was the "librarian persnickety uber-organized" type of person. It would write dates and appointments (although most often remember everything without a calendar), and could remember everything I said (good and bad!). It was organized and not lazy. She really cared about having things "straight." She retired from a career / job 4 years ago.

Now she keeps asking the same questions repeatedly, she misplaces all, his house has piles of junk everywhere. She sleeps and often cancels trips / visits today. She made a trip to Yellowstone National Park with my father and his grandchildren and stayed in the dressing room all the time (not like her, she used to be a backpacker and "doer"). She knows that her memory is not what it was, but it is denial tricks like "Oh, it's true! Now I remember" (And then she'll ask the same question 10 minutes later )....

The problem is that it is in another city, and very proud. I alluded to the fact that she needs to talk with your doctor about these things, but she is reluctant. My father does what he can, but she was not listening.

SHOULD I CONTACT myself DOCTOR? What would you do?

It appears that your mom is definitely a difficult time with memory and could be causing it a sort of depression. It is hard to help seniors in this situation because they are uncertain of what might be causing these memory problems, it could be something as serious as Alzheimer's or another form dementia, or it could be something as uncontrolled diabetes. Your mother seems to be in regular contact with her doctor and request * ze probably your memory about his problems. The hardest thing is to make him confess, and it may not be seen as a problem, just part of aging. I do not know if a doctor could raise the fact that you contacted hir * but if ze could damage your relationship with your mother. I do not know what I would do in this situation, other than trying to do your best to keep your mom strong mentally and socially active. It is important in this situation not to push, but do your best to facilitate what she wants. When she is ready, it will ask his doctor or y'all (his family) for help.

In the meantime, maybe you can try to do things with your mom softly out, and accepting the fact that she had memory loss, and that's okay. Try to encourage him to make "to do" lists or keep a calendar. The routines are also a good idea, with something like a schedule posted on the refrigerator, so that if it merges, it can get back on track.

Good Luck

* Ze and hir are replacing neutral pronouns, he / she and his /

There are medicines which are supposed to help, but if you can not take her to a doctor it is useless. Dad you need to make an appointment with her doctor, do not tell him at the time of the appointment saying he wants to take her to lunch or any excuse to get her help.

For his safety, you may not be trying to create a "physical" with the doctor. Then tell him and explain what is happening.

A brief discussion with the doctor is a good idea. They will inform you better than us.

yes, yes, yes - call his doctor. could be a kind of memory impairment could be a psychiatric problem such as depression, could be a medical problem that affects his mental state. A good doctor in geriatrics would be another place to go. Most teaching hospitals have clinical disorders of memory where they make neuropsychiatric tests. This may assist in diagnosis and treatment plan.

Especially if you feel that your mother is weak and will not seek help themselves, please consider your responsibility.